A Manipulators Guide To Losing Their Obsession Of Control. Is This You?
Whether it be in your own life, in your friendships, or in your relationships.
It can be a great driving factor in a lot of people’s motives, and the crazy part is you might not even be a “controlling” partner or friend.
I’ve always been a person who has been obsessed with control but I don’t think that I would come across as controlling to people.
Instead, I was unintentionally manipulative and that was my method of asserting my control, not directly but passively.
Whether it was in friendships or short lived relationships, I gained my power in a subtle way and had a fear or went crazy when I got a sense that I was losing this power.
A prime example would be when I was dealing with a woman.
Most known manipulation techniques to gain power include:
Gaslighting: using psychological methods into questioning their own sanity or powers of reasoning.
Example- “it was just a joke” (Saying something hurtful & then stating that it was just a joke when you partner feels upset about it.)
Lying & Blaming: making untrue statements to gain power.
Example: “I didn’t even know that my ex was gonna be there, your being over dramatic”
Threats: Using threats or self harm to get someone to do something in your favor.
Example: if you do leave then I’m gonna kill myself.
Passive Aggression: Resisting cooperation with someone or being sarcastic to get someone to do something.
Example: *Loudly Sighing whenever you are upset instead of just communicating that you are upset.*
I would never lie, gaslight, or do anything for that matter but I would do terrible manipulative techniques like the silent treatment or withdrawal a lot without even realizing.
So If my partner was doing something that I didn’t like, or not doing what I wanted them to do, I would automatically withdraw myself from them, even if the action was insignificant. I would withdraw…