The Validation Addiction Cure

The Most Common Addiction in the World 🌎.

*Group Conversation*

Jill: I just want a boyfriend to tell me how beautiful I am Everyday. That’d be sweet.

Jack: I just wish my parents could just accept my dreams and support me.

Mark: And I just want to make money and stunt on my ex girlfriend that dumped me. I want everyone who doubted me, to learn that they shouldn’t have, and regret it.

Michael: I just wish I could be myself around everybody I am around. I feel like a total different person when I get around my mom.

Janet: I just wish people would feel sorry for me, and see how much my dad hurt me over the years.

Tyrone: Y’all are all lame (He is deeply Insecure, and putting others down to feel better about himself.)

These are some of the many examples of the dangerous addiction.

Validation Addiction.

Most people don’t even know they have this addiction.

A lot of people lose themselves off this addiction, and don’t know the core of who they are because of it.

How can you overcome this addiction, and be who you truly are?

That’s the answer many people end up trying to find throughout their lives, and once you live out that answer, your whole life will change. You will encounter actual spiritual growth and be very happy.

Now to truly begin this journey, you need to know and identify with your ego. The part of you that tries to live up and maintain a certain image of you.

What you need to realize is that you are not your ego. You are not a validation seeker either, your big ass ego is the one doing all the validation seeking. The real you does not care for validation, the ego thrives off of it. So what you need to do is to make that big ass ego smaller. How?

1. Spot Your Ego (Roles in the Conscious mind)

• When your dwelling on the hurt from rejection, disappointment , anger, embarrassment. When your consumed in a emotion, spot your ego.
• The inner dialogue in your mind is overly focused on your anxieties, fears, and doubts about yourself. (“I’m not good enough” “I can’t go over there” “I’m so stupid” “Why is everybody looking at me, they must think I’m ugly” “She must think I’m weird”
• You base your worth on external things like the car you have, how many followers you have, clothes you wear, and your career. Etc.
• You value power too much. You want to be a better than everybody and be looked at a certain way so you can look improve your ego image.
• You change who you are around people so they can like you.
• You get extremely hurt when people don’t do what you expect them to do.
• You brag about yourself a lot
• You brag about yourself a lot, so you can get people to like you

2. Laugh at your Ego.

That is it.

That is how you kill your validation addiction and decrease your ego.

Stop taking it so seriously.

When an ego thought pops up, and you spot it.

When you laugh at your ego, you realize and automatically put yourself in the state of observing it. You change your perspective from being your ego to watching it, and overtime realize you are not your ego. When you realize your not your ego, you won’t need what it needs anymore. You won’t need validation, because validation only serves the ego, not you. You won’t let your ego hold you back.

You will become you. You will become fearless. You will become happy again. You won’t be a slave to your ego anymore.

Example…..

Lets say your a person with anxiety and walk into walmart

You walk in the entrance and notice everybody staring at you.

You think to yourself “they must think I’m ugly”

Spot that thought. Catch it. Hear it. Etc.

Then laugh. (you don’t have to roll on the floor dying of laughter, just a simple fake smile at the thought is good)

You are now laughing at your ego, instead of being it. You will then realize you don’t care what people think, it’s really not affecting you and they can stare at you how they want.

You won’t need their validation.

Now this is a learning process that will get better with time, and change your Life dramatically.

I advice you to just write down a goal of doing this for 3 months throughout Everyday. If that is too much, do it one day out the week, and increase days when comfortable!

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